5 Creative Ways to Spice it Back Up With Your Boo

Have you been sooo busy building your empire that you’ve been neglecting to spend ‘quality” time with your boo?

I know all about it.

Good thing for you, I’ve created this boss mom guide to help you bring back the spice (or make the spice even spicier) in your love life when bae has just about had it with you pulling all nighters and walking around looking like whodunit and why!

It just takes a little balancing and prioritizing, and implementing some or all of the following tips.

Spicing things up with bae

1-Get away

There is nothing like time away in a new or familiar place to spice things up with bae.

Quick roadtrips or weekend getaways (with or without the kids) have a way of connecting people.  Depending on where you are in the world, and on your budget, you could hop on a quick weekend cruise, or just drive to the nearest major city, or nearest small town…whatever floats your boat.

If you’re married, and you’re able, maybe even reliving your honeymoon (without the kids of course) is an option that would help.

My husband and I used to get away all the time.

In fact, we just had a spur-of-the-moment getaway with the kids this past weekend to NYC.

We’ve also been camping out in a tent (like forreal forreal)…that was an adventure.  We’ve visited caves.  We went horseback riding on a beach.  We spent a cozy weekend in at a not-so-warm beach (with a 3 month old), and ALL of these mini vacays were spur-of-the-moment.

There’s no excuses.

Not only will you and bae reconnect and spice things up, you’ll be refreshed and ready to werk once you’re back home.

Your mind will be clear, and you can get back to being a boss mom more effectively.

2-Massage each other

Or if you’re big ballin’ get a couple’s massage at a spa.

Touch is a major love language, and a human need.

Even if it’s neither of your love languages all humans need to be touched.

If you’re going to do it for each other, do some quick research on YouTube to get down the basics, buy some natural/healthy oils, maybe some essential oils for aroma, some candles to set the mood, and get to it.

This is so win-win for you as a boss mom, and for your relationship.  If you’re anything like me you get all knotted up and sore from time to time.

A little massage break would do you fine.


My fav!!

Dancing will def help spice things back up with bae, but not just any dancing…dancing TOGETHER.

Zouk is one of the sexiest dances in my book.  There are some great videos on YouTube you can check out and “learn” to do with your partner.

If bae absolutely doesn’t wanna do it, or is just saying that because forreal s/he has two left feet…look up a sexy floor and chair routine, and perform it FOR your boo.

Don’t spend too much time trying to get it perfect.  Improvise if you need to. You have an empire to get back to building.

Stay focused.

4-Plan a date night

Or just date in general.

Recreate your first date if you remember it, and if it WASN’T a flop.  Put the kids to bed early, and stay up having a candlelit dinner with some nice music.

You can watch a movie (tip #5), or dance (see tip #3), or massage each other (tip #2).

Again, whatever floats your boat, and would be pleasing to both of you, go for it!

5-Watch a romantic comedy

Romantic comedies always seem to help me and my husband reconnect.

Laughter truly is a great healer, and topped off with the most healing force-LOVE-you can’t go wrong watching a romantic comedy.


I take that back.  My first date with my husband consisted of “watching” Dear John, except Dear John ended up watching us.

We just couldn’t get into it.  It didn’t hold our attention one bit, and we fell asleep on it TWICE.

Once during our first date, and again when recreating our first date lol.

We eventually just gave up trying.

I’m not saying it’s not a good movie, I’m just saying I couldn’t tell you.

Netflix has some good options if you have it, and your nearest RedBox may have some things too.

6-Do something adventurous

Oh yeah!!

Anything to get your heart pumping a little bit will turn up the heat and spice things right on up.

If you’re both daredevils do something wild like skydiving, or bungee jumping (at your own risk.  I’m not responsible for any mishaps).

Or, like I mentioned in tip #1 do something like horseback riding.

You could even do an amusement park with the kids, and still have lots of fun together as a family.

7-Dress up or undress

I typically walk around naked, so for me it’s dress up lol.

What is it for you?

Maybe you don’t walk around in your birthday suit all day like I do, but yoga pants and a T-shirt EVERY single day can get boring too.

Spice things up a bit with your wardrobe, even if only for a day, and I guarantee bae will love anything different even if s/he doesn’t really like the actual get up.

If you’re really wanting to add some flavor and spice for some time to come, do a full makeover.

Buy some new clothes (this doesn’t have to be super pricey), get a new do, and a mani-pani (you can even do that yourself).

If you’ve started the visual branding stage of building your empire…this could be a great time to start incorporating your brand elements into your life.


You’ve got 7 fun and simple ways to add some spice in your relationship with your partner to help you be more balanced as a mom and business woman.

Which one of these tips sounds most appealing to you?  Let me know in the comments below, or come party with me and other badass boss moms in the official Boss Mom Squad headquarters.  Introduce yourself, ask a question, or let us know how you spice things up with your boo!

Talk to you soon!

The Real Boss Mom
Business & Mindset Coach for Badass Boss Moms

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How to Build Your Empire and Still Make Time for Bae

Are you in need of quick ways to sneak in some quality time with Bae?

Bad enough time with bae diminishes significantly after kids, but add on top of that an ambitious, go-getting, full-time mom that’s about her business, and the little time that was there totally seems to disappear altogether.

I know how challenging it can be for boss moms to “take a break” from werk, especially when ideas are flowing, and creativity is at its max; however, it’s very important not only for your relationship, but for you too, to take a break sometimes, and spend it with the one(s) you love.

Here are some quick tips for sneaking in some quality time with bae that won’t have you feeling guilty about not werking, and will have him/her feeling special and cared for:

1-Schedule a Date Night in

This is one of my favorite ways to spend quality time.  When it’s scheduled and on the books it feels less like spending time by default just because you live together, and more like an actual date that was planned with intention.

Plan for this date to be right in the comfort of your home, and schedule a start and end time for it.  That way Bae gets an expected amount of time with you, and no one’s feels any kind of way once the date is over, and you can get back to werk without guilt, or (unnecessary) commentary from Bae.

You can do a whole bunch during date night like watch a movie, or have dinner by candlelight, or just talk.  

Whatever you do, make it as much like your first date ever.  

Get to know each other all over again.

You’d be surprised how many couples stop sharing the “simple” things after some time together, and only discuss things related to the kids, money, or household.

Talk about your favorite colors, or foods, or what you did today.  Share your dreams for the future, or your fears, or your passions.

2-Werkout together

I always say your business plan is null and void if you don’t have a fitness plan.

Your true wealth is your health, and if you don’t take care of your physical body, you might as well pack it all up.  

It makes absolutely no sense to grind and grind and grind for your dream life, and end up living it sick or unwell.

Spend some time werking out with Bae, and catch 2 fish with one net (I know you can catch a whole lot more, but I don’t like the idea of killing birds with stones, so that’s my version).

Who says you have to go to the gym, or do jumping jacks?!

As long as you get physical, and break a sweat…how you do it is up to you ;-).

Just make sure to do it with bae!

3-Make a meal together

You gotta eat right?!  

Well, the next time you prepare a meal do it with bae.

It’s best if it’s a big meal, a meal from scratch, or a messy one :-), so you actually have some significant time together.

Work together, and enjoy conversation while doing it, or just do it and keep the conversation focused on accomplishing the task together.

Have fun and bon apetite.

4-Drive in silence

Okay, so not in total silence, but definitely without the radio, or any other distractions.

Turn everything off, and just talk.

Talk about anything, and maybe even hold hands if it’s safe to do so.

5-Set your goals together

This is such a beautiful and important way to spend quality time with bae.

Setting goals is SUPER important, especially for boss moms.

They help you stay focused, and keep you on track to living your dream life.

You can do this with bae concerning goals for your relationship, or family, or household, etc.

It can be done daily, weekly, or monthly.

You could even complete the goal-setting werkbook I created with bae (Click here to get a copy), and schedule quality time every month or every quarter to review your progress, and update your goals.


You now know 5 ways to sneak in quality time with bae without having to compromise doing things you have to do anyway, and without having to feel antsy like you’re not being productive, and moving forward with building your empire.

Don’t forget to snag your copy of the free goal-setting werkbook I created to help you stay balanced and on track this year.  

It’s the perfect exercise to go through with bae.  Download it below.

Now get to werk!



The Real Boss Mom

fierce CROPPED
Business & Lifestyle Coach for Badass Boss Moms
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5 Simple Ways to Stay on Track & Balanced in 2016

Stay on Track. Be balanced.

Are you tired of setting goals and resolutions year after year, only to see that each year passes without you accomplishing a damn thang?


Ok. Ok.


Maybe not “a damn thang,” but not your major goals or priorities?


I know I am, and so I decided to do a little soul searching, and really ask myself what MUST I do in order to stay on track this year with my major goals, while also maintaining a sense of balance as a mom and business woman (a boss mom).


Below you’ll find a must-do list of 5 simple ways to accomplish your major goals for 2016, while staying on track and balanced.


Staying on Track and Balanced in 2016


1. Have a theme/primary aim for the year

Having a theme or primary aim (the overall desire you have for your year) helps you stay focused.  Major organizations and religious groups choose themes, aims, or affirmations yearly to create a sense of oneness amongst employees/the congregation, so everyone is on one accord, and working toward one aim.


One of my fav bloggers does this too.  Her theme for this year is Sweet ‘16.  I love the sound of that.


Another site I follow (FLYLady), which helps me stay organized, and get rid of physical clutter in my home, chooses a theme every year too.  This year it’s “Watch Me Fling in 2016.”  It’s about flinging the clutter.


So what’s gonna be your theme, or primary aim this year?


Mine is “Making that Green (money) in 2016.”


If you wanna rhyme like me *insert cheesy face*, here are a few words that rhyme with 16 that you may want to consider:
















Use your creativity!


2. Set goals

Not setting goals is the number one reason why so many people fail to get shit done.


I didn’t do any research on those stats to really know if that’s true or not, but it makes sense to me.


If you don’t set goals, what are you really accomplishing?!  You’re just going through life doing things with no end in mind.


You might get stuff done, but is it in alignment with your primary aim for your year, or your life overall?


If you don’t set any goals, how do you know where you’re going?  It’s a must that you set goals, and that you do it the most effective way possible.


3. Include all major areas of your life in your goal-setting

Now this is where we incorporate balance.


Goal-setting is important, yes, but what you’re setting goals for is just as important.


Are all your goals focused on just one area of your life?  On making more money, or on you starting a business, or on you getting more sales in your business, etc.?


Or, are they all, or mostly focused on you getting more organized, or eating healthier, or doing better with meal prepping and working out?


If you want more balance in your life, don’t expect to have it if you’re only focused on achieving things in only one or two areas of your life.


Please tell me, how does that work?


It doesn’t.


If you want more balance, your goals have to be balanced.


Plain and super simple.


4. Create a plan to achieve your goals

This is the step where so many goal setters miss the mark.


Your goal is simply your end result; your destination.


How in the hell will you get there though, if you have no idea what you’re gonna do to get there?


I’ll wait.


Have you ever jumped in your car, turned on your navigation system to get to a place you have no idea how to get to, and been given 3 different routes you could take?


Goals work the same way.


You’re going somewhere, you have a general idea of how to get there, but aren’t sure about the actual steps you need to take, or which route you want to take (avoiding tolls aka obstacles, going the fast but longest distance, or going the slow but shortest distance).


You’ve got to get clear on that , or you’ll have some amazing goals set, and you won’t take the first step toward achieving them, because you won’t know what they are, or which way to go.


Create a plan.


5. Set reminders to evaluate your progress

You can stay on track in 2016 by evaluating your progress every month, or every quarter, or whatever timeframe works for you.


Have you ever been real excited in the beginning of the new year about all the growth you’re gonna experience, and all the changes you’re gonna make, and them BOOM, before you know it it’s July, and you have half a year left, and you start sweating bullets wondering how in the world you’re gonna accomplish all those things you were just talking about “yesterday?”  


Yeah.  I’ve been there done that, and it sucks.


It doesn’t have to tho.


If you check in with yourself every so often to see where you are in terms of accomplishing your goals, you can adjust your plan accordingly to make sure you stay on track.


Here’s a *Bonus Tip*

I know you’re busy being a mom, and having some challenges being an entrepreneur at the same time, or struggling to figure out what to do as a business, and how to start it.


Balance is key.


I found this great app recently called 30/30 that helps me stay on track with my tasks at hand.  I set it for however much time I need in order to complete a list of tasks, and it counts down for me, and alerts me when it’s time to move to the next task.


It’s been really helpful so far.  I highly recommend you give it a go.


You now have a great blueprint for not only getting shit done in 2016, but also for staying on track and balanced.


All you’ve got to do now is take action and implement these steps.


Because I know you’re busy caring for your family, nurturing your babies, and building your empire, I’ve created a goal-setting werkbook for you, so you have no excuses about getting it done.


Just download it now, and fill in the blanks.  It’s free!
Click below to get yours now.


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The Real Boss Mom


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5 “New Mom” Apps to Simplify Your Life as a Boss Mom (#4 is My New Favorite)

Don’t be that new mom trying to recreate the wheel, making things harder than they need to be, and telling the world how hard motherhood is.

Now don’t get me wrong.  Being a new mom has it’s challenges in the beginning, but a lot of our new mom burnout can be avoided if we stop working hard, and start working smart!

I had to learn the hard way.

I wanted to know what was best.  I wanted to have all the answers.  I wanted to do things my way!

Can you relate?

If so, and you’re still shooting for that “New Mom of the Year” award…


This video reveals my top 5 “new mom” apps for boss moms to help you work smart and simplify life as a new mom.

To recap…

The 5 “new mom” apps are:

  1. White Noise Baby
  2. What to Expect
  3. Nursing
  4. Dubsmash
  5. Instagram

Confused about this list?

Watch the video to learn why these are my go-to apps as a new mom.

“Boss Mom” Definition | Forget What You Heard, This Is What It Is!

The Real “Boss Mom” Meaning

Simply put, a Boss Mom is a “Cookie Lyon.”

She’s an ambitious, highly driven, fierce, and  outspoken mother who gets the job done, whether the job is being a homemaker, a stay at home mom, a career woman, a working mom, or mompreneur (an actual boss of her own business).

Chances are, if a Boss Mom works a job or is a stay at home mom, she is also actively building her own business whether it’s an online venture, a network marketing or direct sales business, or a traditional brick and mortar business.


Are you a real Boss Mom, or a pretender?

Are you about your business AND your family, and don’t need to sacrifice one for the other, because you have what it takes to get shit done?!

If you’re a forreal Boss Mom, welcome to the Boss Mom After-Baby Success Blog, the best Boss Mom blog and online resource for real Boss Moms.

The Boss Mom Success Blog is a must-read regardless of whether you had your baby yesterday, or 5 years ago.  I’ll be spilling all kinds of beans to assist you in your calling as a mom and boss of your empire (home and/or business).

Stop reading right now, and go follow/subscribe to this blog so you never miss a thing!  Trust me, you won’t want to miss one word.

To Your Ultimate Success as a Boss Mom!!

Yours Truly,
Sunshine Cummings 

Sunshine Boss Mom

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