Have you been sooo busy building your empire that you’ve been neglecting to spend ‘quality” time with your boo?
I know all about it.
Good thing for you, I’ve created this boss mom guide to help you bring back the spice (or make the spice even spicier) in your love life when bae has just about had it with you pulling all nighters and walking around looking like whodunit and why!
It just takes a little balancing and prioritizing, and implementing some or all of the following tips.
Spicing things up with bae
There is nothing like time away in a new or familiar place to spice things up with bae.
Quick roadtrips or weekend getaways (with or without the kids) have a way of connecting people. Depending on where you are in the world, and on your budget, you could hop on a quick weekend cruise, or just drive to the nearest major city, or nearest small town…whatever floats your boat.
If you’re married, and you’re able, maybe even reliving your honeymoon (without the kids of course) is an option that would help.
My husband and I used to get away all the time.
In fact, we just had a spur-of-the-moment getaway with the kids this past weekend to NYC.
We’ve also been camping out in a tent (like forreal forreal)…that was an adventure. We’ve visited caves. We went horseback riding on a beach. We spent a cozy weekend in at a not-so-warm beach (with a 3 month old), and ALL of these mini vacays were spur-of-the-moment.
There’s no excuses.
Not only will you and bae reconnect and spice things up, you’ll be refreshed and ready to werk once you’re back home.
Your mind will be clear, and you can get back to being a boss mom more effectively.
2-Massage each other
Or if you’re big ballin’ get a couple’s massage at a spa.
Touch is a major love language, and a human need.
Even if it’s neither of your love languages all humans need to be touched.
If you’re going to do it for each other, do some quick research on YouTube to get down the basics, buy some natural/healthy oils, maybe some essential oils for aroma, some candles to set the mood, and get to it.
This is so win-win for you as a boss mom, and for your relationship. If you’re anything like me you get all knotted up and sore from time to time.
A little massage break would do you fine.
Dancing will def help spice things back up with bae, but not just any dancing…dancing TOGETHER.
Zouk is one of the sexiest dances in my book. There are some great videos on YouTube you can check out and “learn” to do with your partner.
If bae absolutely doesn’t wanna do it, or is just saying that because forreal s/he has two left feet…look up a sexy floor and chair routine, and perform it FOR your boo.
Don’t spend too much time trying to get it perfect. Improvise if you need to. You have an empire to get back to building.
4-Plan a date night
Or just date in general.
Recreate your first date if you remember it, and if it WASN’T a flop. Put the kids to bed early, and stay up having a candlelit dinner with some nice music.
You can watch a movie (tip #5), or dance (see tip #3), or massage each other (tip #2).
Again, whatever floats your boat, and would be pleasing to both of you, go for it!
5-Watch a romantic comedy
Romantic comedies always seem to help me and my husband reconnect.
Laughter truly is a great healer, and topped off with the most healing force-LOVE-you can’t go wrong watching a romantic comedy.
I take that back. My first date with my husband consisted of “watching” Dear John, except Dear John ended up watching us.
We just couldn’t get into it. It didn’t hold our attention one bit, and we fell asleep on it TWICE.
Once during our first date, and again when recreating our first date lol.
We eventually just gave up trying.
I’m not saying it’s not a good movie, I’m just saying I couldn’t tell you.
Netflix has some good options if you have it, and your nearest RedBox may have some things too.
6-Do something adventurous
Anything to get your heart pumping a little bit will turn up the heat and spice things right on up.
If you’re both daredevils do something wild like skydiving, or bungee jumping (at your own risk. I’m not responsible for any mishaps).
Or, like I mentioned in tip #1 do something like horseback riding.
You could even do an amusement park with the kids, and still have lots of fun together as a family.
7-Dress up or undress
I typically walk around naked, so for me it’s dress up lol.
What is it for you?
Maybe you don’t walk around in your birthday suit all day like I do, but yoga pants and a T-shirt EVERY single day can get boring too.
Spice things up a bit with your wardrobe, even if only for a day, and I guarantee bae will love anything different even if s/he doesn’t really like the actual get up.
If you’re really wanting to add some flavor and spice for some time to come, do a full makeover.
Buy some new clothes (this doesn’t have to be super pricey), get a new do, and a mani-pani (you can even do that yourself).
If you’ve started the visual branding stage of building your empire…this could be a great time to start incorporating your brand elements into your life.
You’ve got 7 fun and simple ways to add some spice in your relationship with your partner to help you be more balanced as a mom and business woman.
Which one of these tips sounds most appealing to you? Let me know in the comments below, or come party with me and other badass boss moms in the official Boss Mom Squad headquarters. Introduce yourself, ask a question, or let us know how you spice things up with your boo!
Talk to you soon!
The Real Boss Mom
Business & Mindset Coach for Badass Boss Moms
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